“Who else should know this?”
Datum: 2026-07-07 09:08
What’s said at the coffee table stays at the coffee table. Or does it?
A lecture participant recently brought up the phenomenon of telling something to colleagues during coffee break and then — without much thought — having the impression that everyone has now heard it.
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Did the message really reach everyone?
I recognize that. Do you? I mean, of course, I understand that not everyone concerned was necessarily there, or that those who were there even heard what we talked about (since it was just a coffee break). But when everything moves fast and there’s so much information flying around in the air, in emails, and in chat, it’s easy — at least for me — to unconsciously think, “I already said that.”
Extra difficult nowadays
Even if we appreciate all our colleagues, it’s easy to forget those who weren’t present at the moment. At the same time, successful collaboration requires that everyone who needs to know something gets the same information. That’s an extra challenge now, when many of us work less at the office and more from home than ever before.
The control question clarifies
The lecture participant I met suggested that one can get into the habit of asking, “Who else should know this?” in such situations and, once that’s clear, share it with that person or those people in an appropriate way.
I think that’s a good suggestion. So, that becomes my encouragement to you (and me).
Do this
- Next time you and your colleagues or employees “talk work” and absolutely everyone is not present, ask yourself, “Who else should know this?”
It might be those in the department who are working from home today, the colleagues who carpool in another car to the conference, or those working at a smaller office in another city than you at headquarters.
- If you realize some people should be informed of what you came up with (or even decided!), please pass it on in a way that no one can miss.
- Do you have a Teams chat channel where you share this kind of information?
- Do you have an upcoming meeting where everyone will be present, so you can add a point about what was discussed to the agenda?
- Will you soon meet the absent group in another context, so you can create a to-do task like “Tell the others about the smart thing we came up with during coffee” and set the due date to the day you’ll meet?
- Or do you have an entirely different forum for this?
Fewer disastrous assumptions
If you pause briefly after discussing something valuable and ask yourself who else should know, misunderstandings in the team will be fewer. Employees will share a more consistent understanding of what applies, and the assumptions made at work will be more accurate. There will be fewer crises to resolve and more time for essentials.
How do you do it?
How do you ensure that all your employees receive the same information at approximately the same time? Please write to me and let me know. As always, I’m all ears and curious about what tricks you have that I, too, could benefit from.
(Speaking of not all being in the place, here are six tips on how to create good hybrid meetings!)
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